Against the Light. The Envy or the Being of the Female Friend

Feminism has made it possible for women to speak of envy, of how it occurs and how it affects us, between friends, between mothers and daughters, between daughters and mothers, in work or political groups; of its dark strategies and mechanisms, its deceptions and illusions, its destructivity and also its benefits. A continuing existing resistance to confessing that we are envious gives us, I believe, a measure of the dimension that envy has in and for us, a dimension that carries the weight of a double burden: the cultural political stigma of centuries and centuries of patriarchal assignation of the envious nature of women, and the psycho-social wound, which puts onto the table the relationship with the other of the other woman, the origin DUODA Estudis de la Diferència Sexual / Estudios de la Diferencia Sexual 58 | 2019 of which is to be found in the relationship of each woman with her mother. The feeling of envy signals a hidden desire that the envied one awakens in the one who envies. The ease of projection and identification with the other woman that women have, on having been born of the same sex as the mother, leads the envious one to discover a desire that she didn´t even know she had. This can be one of its benefits. The envy allows the one who envies to connect to her own desire